Kit Carson County, Colorado |
Earnest E. and Mary N. (Beavers) Elsey, 6 South 48 West
Malvern Iowa, January 22, 1931 marriage licenses " Harold C. Graves, 24, Lincoln - Beatrice Convey, 19, Omaha. " The Desert Sun Published Sept. 24, 2016 Frances Inman Gonsalves was 3 years old when she last saw her father – a man she knew as James David Inman. It was 1929 and her family was living in Lincoln, Neb. The stock market was about to crash and America was headed toward the Great Depression. He walked out the door on a random August day never to return, leaving behind a wife who was six months pregnant, Gonsalves and her two older brothers. "He had no employment … and I know it was more than this man could possibly handle," she said. "I remember the day he disappeared. Him leaving, him walking out the door. I was the last person who saw him. I always felt in my heart he had done that to avoid the responsibility of taking care of a family." The spry 90-year-old Palm Desert resident never knew what happened to her father until earlier this year. More than 80 people – family and friends - showed up to the party at Portola Country Club to help Gonsalves celebrate the milestone and meet the new family members. "This is my nephew," Gonsalves said to Kunkle as Chuck Inman introduced himself to the two women sharing a couch. "I mean our nephew," she quickly corrected herself. Julie Foxworthy, one of Gonsalves' daughters who lives in Connecticut, thinks the discovery of a long-lost relative is exciting for her mother – especially at her age – and the positive manner in which she is handling it is extraordinary. She learned he had jumped on a bus to Omaha where he joined the Army and then met a young lady named Beatrice. He wound up getting married in the early 1930s and had three daughters. He started a new life. To his new family, he was Harold C. Graves. On Thursday, Gonsalves met Joanne Kunkle of Nebraska, one of those half-sisters she never knew existed, for the first time. It's an unusual sibling setup as they shared the same father, but knew him by a different name. The two newly introduced sisters and their families bonded again Saturday during Gonsalves' 90th birthday party in Palm Desert. Kunkle began to research her father's ancestry just before he passed and continued in earnest after his passing. Jeanie Boll took over the genealogy for her mother in the early 90s after Kunkle fell ill. She made phone calls to schools, sent lots of e-mails and visited his relatives to find out all she could about Harold C. Graves. About a decade ago she called the high school where he said he graduated from and they had never heard of him. "I knew at that time he changed his name," said Boll. No one knew who Graves was, but the last name of Inman kept popping up in her research, which led Boll to reach out to Gonsalves and her family and realize his true identity. A DNA test through Ancestry.com clinched the link between the two families, revealing that Kunkle and Gonsalves' younger sister and therefore Gonsalves were close relatives, or in their case, half-sisters. "It took decades. It wasn't easy," said Boll of her research. And when she found out that her grandfather had walked out on his first family, she cried. "I couldn't imagine anyone abandoning their family … their pregnant wife," said Boll. But everyone involved is looking at the silver lining. "All the families are now able to connect … and that's kinda cool," said Boll. "All these families coming together." "My heart was filled with love. When she walked into my home, it was wonderful. The most wonderful thing that has happened because now our family is complete," said Gonsalves of the reunion. Her birthday celebration is likely the last time the two will get to interact in person. "This is the first time and last time we'll get to see each other probably, because we're both old," said Kunkle. "And we don't travel much." But it won't be the last time they talk. Gonsalves said they plan to talk and write to each other – in essence make up for lost time. "We're gonna be very close," she said. Beatrice J. Graves, last residence Omaha, born Feb 1, 1911, died September 15, 1998. |
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